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| So what do you do when pride get in the way of being a leader?
What should you do when your leader hurts you? When they make
your work seem utterly worthless and sincerely tempt you to quit what
you love doing? What is the right course of action? Should
I swallow my pride and let someone run over me or should I stick up for
myself and risk harming what I love doing? Either way, it
distracts me...makes me unfocused and is completely devastating to my
sense of myself. I hate when people make me feel bad about who I
am and the only thing I hate more is when I feel almost forced to
defend myself and inevitably acting like a jerk.
I am a fighter, but what am I fighting? I have struggled with
myself for years, trying to develop better leadership skills, trying to
be a servant, but for all the things I've learned....I still can't back
down when I feel wronged by someone.
Do you know how hard it is to be a woman AND to lead? If I am
soft like everyone wants me to be, wants girls to be, I won't be
respected, nothing will get done, they will run over me. If I am
hard, I am unattractive. They praise men who are firm and
unrelenting. Women who do the same are simply bitches.
When I work, I'm strict. I do things a certain way which allows
for little disorganization, but at the same time, I really care about
the well-being of those I'm leading. There is a lot of
flexibility but within reason. I don't take crap from anyone
except those I love...and even then, if they loved me, I wouldn't have
to take crap from them.
Should I relent or compromise my standards?
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| I'm a princess/warrior/scholar looking for a pirate/cowboy/ninja.
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| Tis the end of the year...and honestly, it's a been a year of great losses. The Dog has not been my friend. I've suffered to lose a love, a president, academic work ethic...but what is there to do when life steamrolls you over? Get up and keeping on trying. I am not the best person in the world and my faults are ever so numerous, but one thing that I do like about myself: resilience. The world can and often does get me down, but I keep on fighting. Gotta make the best of what God has given me. Someone told me once that "Your life is God's gift to you and what you do with it is your gift to God." All in all, I have been reminded over and over again this year how important friendship is. Sometimes it is all we have and all we can give. There are two people whom I hold very dear to me these last months. They have filled a void that desperately needed time and attention. They have given me the opportunity to be thoughtful and reminded me of the person I was--one who is nice and who is capable of giving. While talking with someone else who insists on calling me BFF, I realized this: The youth have this incredible power to inspire. We have hope that shines in our eyes, optimism spilling from our lips, and purity in our hearts. How can we not but inspire awe when we actually take the time to speak of our plans and the future? Most young people do not know they have this power and it is an even greater shame when they think they don't have it at all. To uplift the spirits of the youth with visions of greatness! But I have also found another quote, quite true and applicable: "A good leader is like a candle - it consumes itself to light the way for others."
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| A few days ago I got a Facebook Friend request from this random guy in Oklahoma: Anthony Vu. (I keep all of my random friend requests thinking that maybe one day I'll remember who they are.) So I'm thinking okay, whatever...I'll figure out who he is eventually.
Today, I understand. hahaha....I scrolled down to my Group Requests and found a new one that I hadn't noticed before (I keep all my group requests as well): The Most Beautiful Vietnamese Girls on Facebook. whoa  Made my day! lol...Apparently these 4 guys from Oklahoma searched all the Viet girls with typical Viet last names on Facebook and invited a total of 2,351 girls to join this exclusive group. 1,008 has accepted their request. There are two Cali girls that I know on the list as well as girls from UGA (Christine, the other Christine, Sandy, Kelly, Tracey, Trang, and Lan). lol...there's also an Annie Tran, but she's from Berkeley I think.
I'm pretty flattered by the whole thing. I wonder how many girls they searched through and why on earth did they choose me out of all them. There are plenty of other pretty Viet girls at UGA too. That's my thought for the day.
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| Man, I'm such a book whore. I went to the library Friday to borrow a book for class because the book I ordered off half.com won't come in for another week or so. I came out with 2 other books that I know I won't have time to read. I have still have 2 other leisure books and 2 school-related books to read.
There are a lot of things that I come upon that I feel is so singular that it must be shared with others. In return, hopefully I will be enlightened by others with things that they find striking.
So one of the books described friends as "God's apology," by which was meant that, by way of apology and to make amends for the families He burdened us with, God also supplied us with friends which are based entirely on personal selection. So how many friends did we choose and how many chose us?
There was another selection in the book that talked about best friends (which is probably why I haven't had one in a long time). "A best friend is...the person with whom you can joke freely, be serious comfortably, be open easily, never worrying about giving offense." Which is another way of saying that the person with whom you "can be most human...the most yourself." The author later on says that "I sometimes think I no longer have the makings of a best friend. I am, I think, a decent listener, but not much of a confessor."
It's interesting to see the taxonomy of friendship ~ how people define their friendships ~ who their best friends are and why ~ if and how they were chosen/chose to be friends. If you trace back along your friendship tree, how many have grown and died, how many are still growing strong, and how many need a little watering?
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